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July 1, 2015 | by Frenchgirl
Before being diagnosed with cancer, Florence was a 20-something year old French girl living the American dream and focused on perfection. After cancer caused everything to change, she learned to let go of perfection and love her new life. Read more.

When I arrived in San Francisco, I was a shy and naïve 22-year old French girl who dreamed of a perfect life. I always had a smile on my face and loved being a "foreigner" in a new country. I finished law school and got a job. Along the way, I made new friends and fell in love. After 9 years in California, I had it all. I just did not know it then.

Call it the American dream syndrome maybe but I kept wanting more. Always more. The next step was to have kids, move to a nice house and get a dog. I had big dreams and everything seemed possible, but life is not a straight...
June 26, 2015 | by TomArguello
When Tom was diagnosed with testicular cancer, he found himself overwhelmed with emotions that he didn't know how to control. Read more to find out how he managed his fear.

I have often told people that I wish I could travel back in time and talk to my past self on the day I was diagnosed with cancer, because nothing has ever been the same since then. For me, cancer was like a nuclear bomb in my life. My entire life is now divided into two time periods: Before cancer and after cancer. As I write this, I am traveling back to "B.C.", and to be perfectly honest, it's hard to go back there. It's difficult to put myself back in the headspace I was in when I first found out I had cancer because it was a painful time and I am an ardent believer in never looking back. I choose to look back now in hopes that my story can help others cope...
June 22, 2015 | by ikickedass
During her time in the hospital, Nicole realized she was living a completely different life before cancer. As she entered her "new normal," she made a list of the top three things that cancer taught her.

Before my cancer diagnosis more than two years ago, I was a completely different person. I took countless things for granted, I stressed out every single day, I had a negative attitude, and I didn't take care of myself – both mentally and physically. I was the type of person who worried about everything under the sun and the type of person who rarely used a sick day at work. I also never took time to 'stop and smell the roses' because I was always in a rush. Life was passing me by and I didn't take the time to appreciate or even realize it.

My body subsequently endured four toxic rounds of chemotherapy and a stem cell...
June 19, 2015 | by bellajenna
As a parent, it can feel overwhelming to think about how you're going to tell your kids you have cancer. It's normal to want to protect our children. For Jennifer, it was important for her to explain her diagnosis in a way that her young boys could grasp.

I think the worst day of my life was the day my husband and I chose to tell our young boys about my cancer diagnosis. We both knew we had to tell them sooner rather than later. Things move fast in a household turned upside down when cancer barges in. I had already been home from work for a few days, recovering from a biopsy and then meeting my surgeon for the pathology reports and going for the seemingly endless tests that follow.

As is typical in my house - I don't overthink anything. I go with my gut and jump in with both feet. I didn't know the right way to...
June 18, 2015 | by Cayci
How do you know exactly what kind of care you should provide to someone with Cancer? People who have Cancer may require many different kinds of care, but everyone has the opportunity to provide care in accordance with their strengths.

If you've ever wondered how to be the best caregiver your loved one, the first step is figuring what type of caregiver you are. Throughout my 4 year cancer journey, I have been able to see what and who makes a good caregiver. What I found is that everyone has different strengths, and those strengths can be re-purposed into a caregiver role in some way. But first off, it's best to define the role of a caregiver; it's a person that provides care. But keep in mind that care is multi-faceted and can be given in many ways. Care can be be personal, financial, emotional, nutritional, or be in...
June 10, 2015 | by MariaC1979
Anyone who has been diagnosed with cancer has experienced the fear of recurrence at least once - assuming the worst with every headache or cold. Read more to find out how Maria coped with her fear of recurrence.

Think back to the last time you've heard someone who has undergone a critical surgery unrleated to cancer been asked, "Hey aren’t you afraid ___ will come back again?" It sounds kind of silly. But wth Cancer, this is a very relevant concern. The possibility of recurrence...every Cancer survivor's worst fear. Survivors don't typically bring up this subject in everyday conversation. Some survivors claim they don't have any fear of recurrence at all. Although I am unsure how that can be, I realize everyone's experience is different.

I am a cancer survivor of 36 years. Diagnosed at the age of 15, I...
June 4, 2015 | by KatCreighton
Newly married, Kat hadn't yet begun to plan for a family when she was suddenly diagnosed with endometrial cancer. Like so many, the surgery that saved her life left her unable to have children.

Cancer didn't take my life, but it stole something else from me that is seldom discussed. My oncologist didn’t have any pamphlets in his office on how to live when you lose the ability to create life. My doctor cut out my cancer, but with that came the loss of my fertility. He prepared me for the surgery; his nurses advised me regarding healing and incision care, but no one offered advice for the days, weeks, months, and years afterward, when my body has healed but my heart has not.

So I have made my own way and forged a path through this uncharted territory. I grieve, frequently. I cry whenever I feel the need. I decline...
May 28, 2015 | by JeffL
What is life in a post-cancer world? Do you ever get back to normal? What is the new normal?

"Now it's time to get back to normal."

You hear those words a lot once you get the "All clear" at the conclusion of your cancer treatment. Many people believe you're supposed to just pick up exactly where you were before you first heard the words "you have cancer." You head back to work and resume like it's just another Monday. Except it's not a normal Monday. It's a Monday from some sort of alternate universe that I like to call, Cancerverse.

For many of us, life isn't the same in the post-cancer world. Physically, you might be dealing with the after effects of chemotherapy or radiation. You might still be healing from a surgery or multiple surgeries. In my case, I was bald and twenty pounds lighter...
May 21, 2015 | by sparkle_dd
Some people just don’t know how to handle a cancer diagnosis. Certain friends may distance themselves which can cause the cancer patient to feel lonely, confused and angry. Read more to find out how one cancer fighter dealt with her changes in friendships.

It’s funny how most people like to be included in your life during celebrations, or when things are going great. Friends, family, and co-workers love participating in those moments of life, but if you suddenly are diagnosed with something like Cancer, this all changes abruptly.

As you grow older, you realize it is more worthwhile to have a few sincere friends than it is to have a bunch of acquaintances who are only there for the good times. I can almost guarantee being diagnosed with cancer will help you determine who falls into which category.

That one...
May 18, 2015 | by wgarth
Not only did Garth decide it was best for him to work during treatment, but it helped him approach his job from a completely new viewpoint. Read on how he navigated this 'new normal' within the workplace.

Recently at my job, employee performance evaluations were distributed. The joy of condensing a year’s worth of work down to a rating from 1 to 5. I was rating myself on my old position with the company. During the year I was recovering from surgery and subsequently diagnosed with metastatic kidney cancer. I started adjuvant therapy and have been taking Votrient ever since. For all intents and purposes, I was a cancer patient each and every workday last year. The initial impact of the side effects was severe. I didn’t function well and it really affected my ability to work.

I looked over the employee evaluation form...