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We hope that what you find here will bring you closer to finding Health, Hope, and Happiness.

January 23, 2015 | by imdeemac
If you or a loved one has been recently diagnosed with cancer, share this letter with them - written by a survivor who was given only a few months to live eighteen years ago. Read more.

I know you may be feeling sad. Mad. Numb. Ugly. Scared. Vulnerable. The list goes on. I know that you're thinking that this isn't fair. It isn't. I know that you haven't even really thought about yourself because you are so focused on those around you who need you to be alive and healthy. Your children. Your parents. Your significant other. Your best friend.

I can't sit here and try and make you feel different about any of this, but I can let you know that you're not alone. One of the biggest things that you will need to do right now, at the very start of your journey, is to make up your mind to really give this all you've got. Do...
January 17, 2015 | by PamSudlow
CorrectChemo is a test that reveals which chemo will kill the cancer cells of an individual patient. It allows patients to take control of their treatment plan. Read more.

Many survivors talk in terms of being initially overwhelmed at their diagnosis – mine was more like a tsunami of fear and doubt. How can I handle stage 4 colon cancer that's metastasized to my lungs and liver...and everything else going on in my life? I needed answers quickly.

Through The National Exchange Club organization (I am a past President and the first woman in 93 years), I learned about a test that I could take before I settled on a cancer treatment plan.

"Test?" I thought. What test? I never knew that this was an option – that there was actually a test that would help determine what chemo would work on an individual's specific...
January 15, 2015 | by sedonawoman
Cancer is difficult. It is not shameful to admit that you don't have the means, energy or time to accomplish whatever it is that you wish to do when dealing with cancer. You can't do it alone, so why not ask for help?

I was raised to be strong, independent and resourceful. I was of the mindset to do things by myself and for myself and not have to depend on others. But then cancer happened. Right away, I was presented with an immediate situation whereby I quickly realized that some outside assistance would be of great benefit for my state of well-being.

I learned firsthand that if I was willing to seek assistance, I was being incredibly brave. I was willing to admit to myself "in the moment of truth" that I couldn't do it all alone. I acknowledged my own needs upfront. I placed myself at the top of my "to-do" list and allowed...
January 7, 2015 | by CancerDoula
Being diagnosed with cancer does not mean you have to "pause" your life. See how one cancer survivor did not let cancer stop him from living.

A day after I got out of a four-day hospitalization, during which I received daily intravenous chemotherapy, there was a wedding for friends of the family. To my delight I felt well and I decided to attend the wedding with my parents. Having only recently ended chemo, I was still feeling the effects of the drugs. When the music started, my father asked me if I wanted to dance, I thought about it for a second and told him: "yes, but if I fall, help me get up". Luckily I didn't fall, and was able to enjoy a great wedding with friends and family.

As cancer patients, we go through certain experiences that the people around us (doctors/ nurses/ caregivers) perceive as difficult,...
January 5, 2015 | by TeamIHadCancer
It has recently come to our attention that a few members of our site have been victim to an upsetting and shocking act of online identity fraud, also known as "cat fishing".

An individual by the name of Jamilla Bigby, assumed to be suffering from Munchausen Syndrome, created two fictional accounts on various online sites, including IHadCancer.com: Emily Wilson (SeeGirlLive) and an account under her real name, Jamilla Bigby, (JMills).

Both SeeGirlLive and JMills actively updated their journals on IHadCancer, recounting their experiences of what it is like to deal with cancer as a twenty-something. We, like many of you, followed their stories closely and never thought for a second that these emotional testimonies could be works of fiction. We are grateful to the individuals at the Warrior Eli Hoax organization who...
December 23, 2014 | by TeamIHadCancer
This holiday season, the IHadCancer.com team wanted to take the time to highlight the people who have come face-to-face with the monster known as cancer but have still found a way to smile and keep hope alive.

If you take the time to read through the lessons that these cancer survivors, fighters and caregivers have learned, you will realize that you are capable of overcoming any obstacle that you may be faced with, and most importantly, that you are not alone.



1. Life Is Short. Time Is Fast. There's No Replay and No Rewind, so Enjoy Every Moment As It Comes.



"I have often said throughout this journey that I haven't had any bad...
December 18, 2014 | by Mama_Emma
Yes, I said a "family with Cancer", because when one member has Cancer, it affects the family unit as a whole. When one member suffers, all the members suffer. We work as a group, as a team, with one goal: TO KICK CANCER'S BUTT!

The DO's and DON'Ts

1. DO reach out, by phone, text, email, snail mail, anything. Please do not be afraid to contact the family. Yes, they are busy but if they want too, they will pick up the phone, if they can't, they won't. (But don't expect a timely reply. You lose track of time in the hospital, days can turn into weeks. They will call you back when they are able to.)

2. DO leave an open ended...
December 11, 2014 | by BarbaraBurrell-...
Life after cancer is anything abut normal. Instead of focusing on finding "the new normal," Barbara believes that survivors should focus on discovering "the new life" and leave "normal" behind. Read more.

The New Normal. Those three words can be frustrating and daunting to hear as a cancer survivor. I, personally, detest them.

Like many a cancer survivor, I have proclaimed, "I don't want the new normal - I want my normal back." I know it’s impossible – life will not go back to the way it was before cancer, as cancer is an opponent that does not fight fairly. Its goal is to kill, steal and destroy. But the best revenge against such an adversary is to stay strong, make the survivor's voice heard and to not only accept that things will not be the same, but to embrace the new life.

Often times cancer survivors...
December 5, 2014 | by Mallory
Cancer is expensive. All these new costs in your life can quickly make it seem like you don't have enough money to do the things that you used to do before. Here are some tricks that Mallory, a cancer survivor, uses to make budgeting more manageable.

Let's get real for a second - cancer is f***ing expensive! Even for those who had great insurance and just paid for co-pays, cancer is still expensive! If you're paying more than just co-pays, all of those scans and treatments and visits with the doctor definitely add up (and quickly). If you're traveling somewhere for appointments and treatments, you are now factoring in extra gas, food eaten somewhere besides your own home, and lost time away from work. That babysitter job that you used to have to supplement your income, that probably has to go because of your lower than before...
November 28, 2014 | by Mama_Emma
Unlike adult patients, children require 24-around-the-clock parental care in the hospital. In some cases, one parent is trying to work still, or its a single parent situation, so that leaves the “Cancer Mama” (or "Papa") to fend for herself in the jungles of the hospital.

One must remember that a Cancer Mama's number one mission in life is to care for her child, her own well being comes second in all cases. Hopefully this will explain the following:

You spot a greasy haired woman in the washroom, she is attempting to brush her teeth with her finger. She sweeps her unwashed hair into a quick pony tail, hoping nobody will notice. She pinches her cheeks to try to add some colour to them and maybe distract from the deep circles under her eyes from days of interrupted sleep on the most uncomfortable plastic fold out chair in the...