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txyellowrose Connect

Supporter: Other/Rare Cancer

Topic: General

Hi all, This is not my first rodeo, but this time I'm riding a different "horse." Back in 2001, I was diagnosed with DCIS of the right breast. We found it early and I underwent lumpectomy, radiation and tamoxifen. Last month, I underwent an emergent appendectomy for a ruptured appendix. Turns out this was a blessing, as a tumor was found on my appendix - goblet cell carcinoid. Talk about - making no apologies for the pun - a punch in the gut. Felt great, no symptoms - this came outta nowhere. Am awaiting surgery to gather lymph nodes for staging and to remove my ovaries (we all know ovaries are a magnet for any type of cancer and I sure don't need 'em any longer). Have had a cold-like virus but am feeling better, so surgery is scheduled for this coming Monday pending clearance from my GP. Right now I'm taking one day, one hour at a time, focused on resting and getting strong for surgery. That's the "room" I'm in right now. There are all these other doors around me with various labels "Lymph nodes are clean, cancer's gone." to "Need more treatment" to "It's been fun but I'm outta here." I refuse to peek in those other "rooms" - living in the here and now, enjoying every single moment. So I'm back on the cancer rollercoaster. I'm a Warrior and a Survivor (not only of cancer but of Life) and I can "do this," but admit I have rare moments of "OMG I'm scared." Thanks for listening, thanks for sharing your stories. No matter what cancer, what stage, what treatment, what prognosis, we all share the same feelings and processing of those feelings. Peace, strength love and light to all!