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Fighter: Breast Cancer

Topic: Side Effects

It has been 2 years since my diagnosis of HER2+, non-invasive breast cancer. I opted for a bi-lateral mastectomy and they did expanders/reconstruction at the same time. I had 8 rounds of chemo & 52 treatments of Herceptin. I have never been pain free since. My PS says the "surgery" was a success and the pain will subside over time......acts like no big deal. My oncologist doesn't really deal with or understand why I am such pain. At times, I can't stand to wear a bra, but if I go without one I am pain by the end of day. I wear a low dose pain patch that my MD prescribed for me, but it really only dims the pain. As well, I suffer from depression and anxiety, taking Effexor XR daily and Xanax as needed (which is almost daily). I have started therapy with a counselor and doing yoga. Another ongoing issue is the severe hot flashes.....probably at least 1 every hour......to the point sweat pours down my face. Has anyone dealt with any of these issues to which you can help? So wanting to enjoy life again. My oncol says I will be considered in remission for the next 9 years, but as a woman of great faith, I claim to be healed of the cancer! Just needing to be able to start living life again.