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Survivor: Ovarian Cancer

Topic: Chemo & Radiation

So, I'm about 9 months out of chemo and I'm having an identity crisis, wondering when I'm gonna feel like me again. I mean, I understand that I may have to adjust to a new "normal" for me as far as how I feel (so over the physical effects of chemo!) but wondering if/when I'm gonna look like me again. I don't recognize the person I see in the mirror - way too short, darker, and curlier hair, fewer, shorter eyelashes, etc. I just want to feel/look like myself again (although I must admit that one of the best parts of having no hair was getting several different wigs - blonde (my natural shade), brunette, red, and my absolute fave - pink! - and getting to mix it up - I loved that!) And I get that I now have two lives - pre-cancer and post-cancer - and I am grateful and can embrace that, but I'd really like to look like me again and feel at least that small sense of normalcy. Anyone else dealing with this kind of thing? Does anyone have a timeline for how long it took you to look and feel like yourself again? I realize that it's different for everyone but a general idea? Thanks. :)