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Survivor: Bone Cancer

Topic: Survivorship

I had osteosarcoma in my right knee four years ago. At the end of my treatment, I had a reaction to all the chemo and doctors explained it as me having a stroke. I have a spot on the left side of my brain that is stable but seems to be complicating the messages from my brain to my nerves in my right leg. I've lost a lot a muscle, my leg is really weak and I limp a lot. I use a cane daily. And it sucks but I'm okay with it. I don't think that anyone else is. But people are constantly asking what has happened. I used to work in retail and once I was healthy again, I went back to my job. Every single day at least one person asked about my leg. I get that people can be curious, but they should think about it to themselves. Because then, they put me in the position to be the bad guy because I don't want to answer personal questions. <br><br>I seem so rude giving one word answers, but how come they don't stop to think that maybe it's personal, maybe it's something they have no business knowing and I might not want to talk about it? If they don't take that time to think about it before asking me, then why should I take a second to think about the fact that they might not being asking in a mean way, or that's the first time they have asked me today so I shouldn't get mad. I think I'm allowed to get upset. I have no problem with my scar, so I wear shorts, however, that's not an invitation. Is that wrong? Am I always going to have to accept that random people who know nothing about my life, and probably don't even actually care are always going to ask me and I have to be the bigger person and be nice about it?