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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Cervical Cancer

Cancer - I was so happy before I met you. I had a wonderful husband and two step children I loved as much as if they were my own. I was extremely sick for four months before them finding my cancer by accident. I spent those four months absolutely miserable...in excruciating pain they couldn't control. I felt like I was slowly dying and nobody could figure out what was wrong. Turns out, you were trying to kill me. After I was diagnosed, I started chemotherapy and radiation...during that time, you turned my loving husband into a total stranger. He said he couldn't watch me be sick...he instead turned away and to a coworker. My ever faithful husband told me he no longer loved me and was having an affair while I was battling for my life. At that point I prayed for you to kill me. What was the point in living just to watch my happy life being ripped from my hands? I hate you for coming in to my life and destroying everything I lived for...all my happiness. Somehow I survived both the cancer and the affair and divorce. My kids stilllove me but are not talking to their dad. I still don't know why I am here. I want to go back to school to be an R.N. and work with gynecologic oncology patients. I want to feel like I am needed and that I can make a ddifference in the lives of others. I don't know what I would've done without my doctors and nurses. My family was states away and my husband no longer cared about me...my doctors and nurses became my family...they kept me going. One day I was happy...going to the gym...never felt better...the next day the pain started. I had just had a good pap smear...less than six months prior. You struck hard, cancer, with total devastation. I wish I could've died thinking my husband loved me. You could've let someone else live...someone whose husband loved her...whose husband was gonna miss her. Not sure why I am still here. Having trouble getting back to living...depression...anxiety...fear. I am going to try to make a difference one day and then maybe I will understand why I survived. I hate you cancer for destroying my happy life. I hate you for the hell I went through during chemo and internal and external radiation. I hate you for my family members who have/are still battling you. YOU SUCK!

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