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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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spiken Connect

Metastatic: Nasopharyngeal Cancer

Life is very interesting with Cancer. The good thing is that you are the boss of your body. If you let it be in control then you are doomed. I have seen many warriors loose the battle half way. This is because they are tired and do not have the will to continue fighting. They want to rest and have peace with their bodies. They cant endure the pain, stress nor all the temptations that Cancer bombards you with to let you give in. This is allowed though Cancer feels like a winner in this situation because you have succumbed to its wish. Many people will discourage you on right decisions you should take. Remember most of them have not been visited with cancer. A good case scenario is when Radiotherapy caused severe mouth ulcers to me. I could not chew nor swallow. I wanted to have the feeding peg inserted. Many objected including my family. Ooh you will get infections, Ooh Its dangerous, blah blah blah. They just don't understand what I am going through. I am happy I am the boss of my body. I decided to go for the feeding peg. Now I am happy. I can eat with ease, quickly gaining strength and building my body immune giving me an opportunity to resume my remaining 15 of the 33 radiotherapy session. Soon I will be done and become a cancer survivor. Cancer you can never beat me I am smatter than you. Try somewhere else dear.