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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Princessleslie Connect

Fighter: Breast Cancer

Dear Cancer, My first thoughts are fuck you, but that's not worth my energy. Just wanted to let you know that you're not winning this. You can attack me from the inside all you want but my strength isn't there, its somewhere you will never be able to touch; in the people that love me and care for me. I'm not sure if you realize but while I'm the one that got cancer physically, my entire family and friends got covered in your ickyness as well. That's where you made the mistake that will give me all the power I need to beat you. You pissed off and hurt people that I love with all my heart and seeing them so hurt is all the strength I need to kick your ass. You may be taking my hair , my chest, my sense of taste, my love of ice cream ( that was a low blow btw asshole), and my Tuesdays but I will never let you take over my life. I vow to never let you ruin my friend's birthdays, the vacations my boyfriend works really hard to go on with me, my job , the happiness of the family dinners we have, or the plans for my future. As horrible as you are I will not let you ruin my life. I will not live my life in fear of you spreading, and once you are gone I will not live my life fearing you will return. You're losing on every front, the chemo is working, I like my bald head, and I haven't missed a day of work unless it was for treatment. You messed with the wrong girl so don't get too comfortable you'll be gone soon. xoxo, your worst enemy. PS - I'm getting a nice free medically necessary tummy tuck out of you attacking my chest so thanks bitch.

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