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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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OspreyLvr Connect

Survivor: Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma

Dear Cancer - Finally you caught me, just as I was totally changing my life. I was found to have metastatic disease during an MRI for nerve pain on May 16, 2014. I was trying for 3 years to find out why I was exhausted. Slowly, I was winding down. So the discovery of the cancer in May 2014 was a good thing. Since we learned by cancer was transforming from Follicular lymphoma to B cell it was high grade - mixed follicular and diffuse pattern B- Cell stage 4. By the time they found the cancer - I had cancer in nearly all my bones - fingers, sternum, spine, pelvic bone 100% involved as were both my thigh bones. Oh and I was 35 days out from getting married. My life felt like a bad made for TV movie. :--) Cancer you did not stop the wedding. you did not stop us from living. The universe gave me a husband who spent his first year of marriage taking his wife doctor appts, biopsies, chemo, next day shots, setting up my meds for pre and post treatment. Mostly being there for me when I was bald and held me when I needed it and bathed me when I was too weak to bath. Our children cried when we told them - I cried too. They bounced back :--) Cancer taught me to love people more deeply and appreciate the goodness of intentions. My Reborn date is -- Dec. 18, 2014 -- the day I was told I was officially in remission. I know someday Cancer you will return. But know this just, like the fist time I'll play to win. In fact - the thought that I can't beat you again never crosses my mind. I hate you Cancer. I never wanted you. Yes, you are there lurking in the back of my head every day. I acknowedge you then move on to my new normal. I am a SURVIVOR!