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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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J.OXENFORD2126 Connect

Survivor: Lung Cancer

Dear Cancer, You were found by accident, I had no symptoms. I was perfectly healthy, I was an electrician and I loved my work and where I worked. You cut short my career. I will never be able to go back to what I was, how I was and how I felt. I should feel lucky, you were found in your very early stage and you were successfully cleared out of my body but the treatments to achieve that ruined my body and my mind. I was still young at 57 years of age when you invaded my body. I was more devastated to learn I could never go back to work and do what I loved, even being told I had cancer was not as devastating. I live now in a different normal but I beat you. I hope and pray that someday I can come to terms with all this and just accept who I am now. It is not an easy path to follow, I don't know where to start. Life goes on and I should be thankful for that and Cancer, I will let you know when I figure out how to be thankful. I may sound bitter but that is how I feel. I beat you, I beat you, I BEAT YOU! Cancer sucks. That sums it up.