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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

Melanoma, You came, You wanted more, You hid away, You returned, You crept up slowly, You broke me, You wrecked havoc, You destroyed me, You changed me, You hurt me, You scared me, You made me afraid, You gave me anxiety, You scarred me, You left me lonely, You haunted me, You wanted me, You covered my body, You made it hard to breathe, You gave me headaches, You made it hard to walk, You made it hard to talk, You made it hard to think, You gave me a brain tumor, You gave me tumors all over, You gave me lung tumors, You gave me nightmares, You hurt my family, You made me cry, You made me scream, You wanted to take me, You gave me nothing, You took everything, Then, I had hope, I had fight, I wanted to live, I wanted to fight harder, I received 3 Chemos, I received 14 Surgeries, I received 3 Therapies, I received 14 rounds Radiation, I wanted to live, I fought back, Then, You started to shrink, You got smaller, You started to fade, You were afraid, You weren't winning, You couldn't handle it, You were losing, I was winning, I was living, I fought harder, I gave you everything, You shrank away, You left me, I got healthy, You were alone, I was stronger, You were one, I was better, You lost, I won, I am living w/o you for 6 years! Melanoma- 0 Me- 1