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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Breast Cancer

Cancer and “Awareness” What it means to me... It’s not all pretty pink ribbons. It’s certainly not about saving ta-tas or free boob jobs. It’s not sexual inuendoes or “second base” jokes. Its not about corporations making money off of pinkwashing merchandise. It’s not even just about women. It’s cancer. It is 1 in 8. It’s serious. Surgeries. Mastectomies. Drains. Poison. Baldness. Needles. Prosthetics. It scars physically and mentally. It takes. It doesn’t discriminate. It changes you. It’s a contradiction. You find beauty where it tried to create ugliness. You find strength during great weakness. You discover courage between moments of paralyzing fear. You will love during moments of intense hatred. You will discover who you are while losing parts of who you were. You will lose relationships while creating unbreakable bonds. You will question everything while gaining understanding of so much. You will find your independence at the same time learning to accept that you can’t do it alone. You will feel time stand still and yet see how quickly it flies by. And family and faith will become everything. Cancer will teach you what matters most and it’s probably not what you always imagined. You will never see life the same and that is the gift. At least it was for me. It’s a time for me to share what I’ve learned, what I’ve experienced. To take the mess and turn it into my message. To be a guide for those who will become a member of this club that no one wants to be a part of, just as so many amazing women did for me. It’s a time to honor the survivors, never forget those who have passed on, support the fighters, and fund research to find a cure. It’s about saving lives.