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Survivor: Cervical Cancer

I will Not call you Dear,,there is nothing ,,not one thing Dear about you..I beat you..then you beat me,you broke me by takeing away the most important man in my life ,,my Hero..My father. Arthur Jenon Madden was the greatest man that god put on this earth, He never lifted his hand to hurt anyone..He would give you the shirt off his back. My hole life my Daddy was there for me.He always made sure we had what we needed.He was from Kentucky born and rasied.A quite man with a smile you could never forget.When cancer first came into his life it came into his blatter..They told me then he would have 8 or 9 years before it came back..Nine years to the day he got a pea size lump on his neck...the doctor said cancer had came back,Daddy told me no more, He wanted to live out what time he had. The doctors said,,one year at the most..I never left his side,everyday I made sure he had everything he wanted, We would watch tv all the shows he loved..then You cancer..would not stop.the tumor got bigger and bigger..He would ask me am I really dieing,,Yes Daddy, but Im here with you..One day we were sitting outside and the wind blew his hair.and he looked at me and smiled..I thought,god is showing me the gift of this man..the man that brought me into this world,I spent my hole life following him.He smiled and said to me theres somethings that I need to ask you.What daddy what do you need to ask me?? He took a deep breath and said,My blue suit yes,daddy.will you get it read for me.yes daddy,,He said I want a dozen pink roses with me..For what daddy? For when I get to heaven I can give them to your mom..yes daddy I will make sure.And one last thing,,yes daddy..Will you stay with me till its over..With tearsin my eyes,,I looked into the eyes of my father and said you walked me into this world and yes,I will walk you out..Within a few weeks..you cancer hit his brain and you cancer made him forget me..You cancer made a 180 pound man ..85 pounds you cancer took his memory ,,you cancer took his speach you cancer,,took everything from him..you thought..He waited for me...that evening even though you had him in a coma..I won I put my arms around him.and layed my head on his chest..And I said Go DADDY,GO to the bright light thats heaven daddy,,mom is there see her,she has been waiting for you..go daddy and give her those pink roses..The hospice nurse said he had been hanging on ..and now she knew he was waiting for me to say,,goodbye..She said he can hear you so in one deep breath I said go its okay, I will be okay and daddy we will be together some day in heaven,daddy theres no more pain there..its alright ..ONE TEAR RAN DOWN HIS CHEEK..one deep breath...and my hero was gone....So cancer..you didnt get the rest of him..I did,,Someday,,somehow ..someone will find a way to get you..And then and only then will I truely happy...So we can rest.and stop you in your tracks.
Jan 24 2013 2:28am |
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