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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Manintveld Connect

Survivor: Ovarian Cancer

Dear cancer, There isn't a day that goes by when I'm NOT thinking of you. My love/hate relationship with you will continue to be just that, love/hate. You took so much away from me that I held sacred. You ruined my chances of ever becoming a mother when you attacked my ovaries. My beautiful head of hair had to be chopped off by my mother due to the chemo I had to endure to keep your ass at bay. The scar from above my belly button down to my nether regions are a reminder of the two surgeries required to first take you out and second, to have second look surgery. I hated you with a passion .. I still hate you with such conviction. But .. I love you as well .. you brought me a sense of peace I'd never experienced. You helped me get rid of living a lie of happiness when I really wasn't happy. I started living my 'life' because of you. You brought me positive changes without realizing it. Best of all, because of you, I met my wonderful husband. Out of the blue .. on the internet .. because of 'our history', dear cancer. What chaos you brought me, drew me to him .. I never felt so wanted in all my life and I have you to thank for that. Damn you, why something so negative could turn into a positive is beyond me but, that's what happened after you were discovered. Thank you for coming into my life .. but only the one time, okay? I don't want to have to kick your ass a second time .. you feel me?

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