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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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JulienG Connect

Survivor: Testicular Cancer

Before you came along, I was living in fear of change and with swirling negative thoughts. I lost myself in my work to avoid facing my unhappiness with myself and my relationship. I wanted to leave my job but didn't have the courage to. I wanted to change but didn't know how to do it. Your strength and invasive nature forced me to do just that. They were a radical answer to my feeling of stuckness. After weeks of discomfort, you finally revealed yourself. You were identified as testicular but you had already made a home in my abdomen, liver, kidney, lungs, and throat. I had no choice but to listen to you and surrender. I don't remember all of it but you kept me in and out of the hospital for a year. You almost squeezed the life out of me and left my loved ones scared by trauma. Chemo and many natural remedies helped soften my experience. A 15 hour surgery marked the end of our dance together. I may be labeled as cured but I know that I have work to do. I don't want to fall back into my old ways. You have taught me some essential lessons and it is on me to apply them every day for the rest of my life. Thank you for forcing me to look at things that I was avoiding for years. Thank you for pushing me to change and start putting myself first. If you had not come along the way you did, I would probably be in the same place, thinking the same negative thoughts and blaming everyone else for my unhappiness. While I would have liked to learn these lessons in a different way, I am grateful for the experience. I am looking forward to dancing with other partners such as perfect health, joy, and the best dancer of all: appreciation.