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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma

Dear Cancer, There is a mystery to you that we have yet figured out. I sometimes don't believe you are in my body. But when I get side-effects like this awful Psoriasis on my body, it registers how you are the culprit and somehow made your way through my cells. Funny how small cells are. Hard to get angry with them. Hard to get angry with my immune system as I am still in awe of all the work they do to keep me healthy. I wish I could meet you and ask "did you really come around so I can change my belief system, find spirituality? And feel like I am continuously free falling with nothing to hold onto, and fear life because I have no control over you? What would you respond? Perhaps you are an aline who does not even my speak my language. Or perhaps you'd say, "sorry but I am misunderstood, I am here to show you not to take life for granted, to love your neighbors, to forgive more and do away with resentments, judgement and all the deadly sins, to be present since the future may not be there..." I am tired of giving you the benefit of the doubt while feeling defeated. I know I have a sword somewhere. And I will regain my strength, find it and cut you out for ever. Fuck you! We were meant to be alive. And that's not from the song but my soul.