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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Breast Cancer

Dear Cancer, I hate you for so many reasons! I hate you for making me choose how much of my body will be cut into and how bad my many scars will be when this is over. I hate you for making me question my life and how insignificant it might be and the things I might have done wrong to deserve this. I hate you for making me so sick while I try to get rid of you that I feel like I’m dying just to keep on living. I hate you for making my son watch as I get so sick and for every time that he sees me cry even when I’m trying not to. I hate you for proving that a couple of the people I thought would always be there for us actually walked away when I needed them the most. I hate you for showing my son that some people walk away, even the ones you love most, when you need them. I hate you for making me ugly on the outside- leaving me bald, swollen body with bruises all over, etc. I hate you for stopping my life and making it impossible to make future plans and wonder if I will ever have a love life or romance again while everyone else’s life goes on. I love you for so many reasons! I love you for showing me and my son how strong I can be when I have to be. I love you for proving that my life is significant to at least someone. I love you for teaching me gratitude for the good days when I feel a little better. I love you for restoring my faith in people, some I don’t even know, who have shown me incredible love and support and for bringing back some incredibly loving people to my life. I love you for persuading me to FORGIVE ALL and giving me the reason I finally needed to talk to my GOD every morning. I love you for helping me understand that my beauty was within the whole time and I never knew it or called upon it like I should have. And lastly, I love you for giving me the scars that will remind me of all of this, every day, for the rest of my life… ~Jennifer Sykes (7/26/2012)

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