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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Caregiver: Hodgkin's Lymphoma

I will not begin this letter with the usual Dear C____. You are the 6 letter word that forever changed my life on July 11th, 2014. You changed my definition of normal, turned the world of my family upside down and made me see life so very differently. When my sister was diagnosed and we formally met, I didn't even know where it was that I should begin. It now occurs to me, the biggest challenge in battling you is actually getting to know you better. Unless personally effected, one would never have a need to know disease differential or the chemotherapy regimens that would need to be used to destroy you. At the age of 23, those facts became my reality. Although you are often spoken of in society, we still fear you as if you are a monster hiding in the darkness. In so many ways, you are exactly that. Most get angry when they hear about you. Everybody wonders why it is that you choose the ones that you do. You cause anger, depression and uncertainty in the lives of those you encroach on. You have an effect that goes so far beyond that of the one you victimize. And while we clearly have no choice in the situation that you put us in, we do have a choice in how we react to your unwanted presence. To learn about you, at times obsess about you, has empowered me. You prey on the most vulnerable and attack the weakness that you cause in them. You are a battle in a much larger war that we have been and continue to wage. I am confident that we will win. That your long list of causalities will come to an abrupt end. For those of us who fight for somebody we love, it is our job to make sure that the warriors who die are not lost in vain. You are an illness that the human body was not meant and should never have to endure. I will never say thank you for your presence in my life. My life has changed in remarkable ways these last two years, but what will never change is my desire to not have you in my life. Science is ever changing. We are on the cusp of finding many new and efficient ways to eradicate you. And what you do not understand, is that you have inadvertently lit a fire within me. One that will forever burn with an insatiable desire to destroy all that is you. As myself and more like me fight with endless determination to find a cure, you are losing places to hide. You will no longer be able to run and your name will soon only be used when people say “I had cancer”.

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