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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Colon and Rectal Cancer

Cancer, Surgery, Chemo, FollowUp Treatment -- It Just Changes You, Your Body, Your Features, Your Stamina, Your Overall Sense Of WellBeing & How You LOOK @LIFE! It's Like You Don't Trust Your Body Anymore (Know What I Mean). Like You Start Think'n: How Dare You (Your Body) Betray Me, Then Sometimes You Start Think'n - Was It The Junk Food? What Did I Do To Deserve This? Was It My Fault, Environmental, Stress...WTDblHockySticks Happened? I Didn't Even "C" It Com'n: Then This Person Is Tell'n Me The "C" Word (& Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah) & I'm Ride'n Home On Auto-Pilot - Can't Hear The Music Play'n Or Anything Just Numb...Then Surgery...Then Chemo Starts - Every Time I Go, I 'Zone Out' The Best I Can W/Music & Tablet App Games (The VA Hospital Does Not Have Enough Room For Patients & Their Caregiver - It's Just You & A Bunch Of Fellow Servicemembers Try'n To Survive). I'm Tired, I Get Sores In My Mouth, Can't Eat...After A Few Days, I Start To Feel A'lil Better - But The Next Day Treatment Starts Again -- VICIOUS CYCLE For Next (7) Months. Then (1) Day Treatments Over...Fr-amily Thinks Everything's Back To 'Normal'...But I'm Still So Tired, Drained...Months Go By - I'm Supposed To Be 'Normal' Again...Hairs Grow'n Back A'lil...Appetites Return'n Slowly... But I Don't "C" Her Anymore?! Where'd She Go? Did They SUCK The LIFE Outta Her? Well, Not Exactly -- "C" She Just Went Thru The A BATTLE Like No Other! No1 Comes Out Unscathed, But It Doesn't Mean You Can't Be Better For It! Introducing The 'New Jeanine'... Take Some Time To Get To Know Her 'New Limitations' (i.e. Severe Neuropathy In My Hands & Feet). Her 'New Dreams & Expectations' (Making The Most Of Everyday, Fight'n Depression & Survivors Guilt)...Accept Her For Who She Is Now, Respect Her For What She Went Thru & Accomplished. Hi Jeanine...I'm Not Here To 'Replace' You Or Forget You...I'm An Extension Of You & WE CAN DO THIS ;-)!!!!! P.S. Insert Your Name...Maybe It Will Help You?!