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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Head and Neck Cancer

I hate you...I had an amazing little life going for myself...You cade once and we surgically removed you...Then you came BACK while I was pregnant...HOW DARE YOU not only come BACK, but try to bring down my UNBORN CHILD....Well, As you know he is 2 yrs old and perfectly happy and healthy...But me...? The treatments I had to endure still has me suffering and fighting every day...EVERY DAY....I am unhealthy and in so much pain...I cant afford insurance so going to the doctor wont help...And when I can go to a doc? They think I just lying for whatever reasons...My physical pain is REAL....My emotional pain is REAL....My daily struggle to live and fight and be happy is REAL....You took all that was good and I have no clue how to get it back...You destroyed my perspective...You destroyed my ability to move and...You made me lose control, now NEEDING to control whatever I can so I feel safe and secure..and still I am left feeling scared, mad and spiteful....I do my best to forget you, like nothing ever happened..But I have constant IN MY FACE reminders all day long of what you took from me....You took from my kids and my husband..They had a happy, smiling mother and wife...One who could go play with them and was ready to take on the world...A wife who made her husband proud..I know he is still proud of me, but I feel he shouldn't be...I am a disappointment in my eyes...I hate you cancer..You killed my mother..You killed my aunt, you killed my grandmother...And you tried to kill me....TWICE...I want YOU to give me back what you took from me and my family..I want you to give back what you took from so many others in this life...You had no right to do what you have done...I don't know if I will be the person I was before you showed up....I hope to be...I am sure its up to me to find my way back..but almost 3 years later I am still lost and blame you...I hate my life now...I dread tomorrow...next week, month and year...I do not want this for the rest of my life...nor for my kids and husband...They deserve to have ME back...I hate you from robbing me of something I had no idea could could be stolen from me...I hate you for showing me I am not as strong as people like to think I am...I hate you with all my heart and soul.....

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