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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Aaron-61820 Connect

Survivor: Brain Tumor

Dear cancer, 19 years ago you gave me a rare form of brain cancer. Two non-germinominus germ cell brain tumors in my pituitary and hypothalamus. When i was diagnosed, I just turned 10 years old. I'm now 29. When I was going through treatment, I was flooded with support, love, and care throughout my journey through cancer. I went thought six cycles of chemotherapy on a chemo cocktail of three different types of chemo as a well as a hearty dose of six weeks of proton beam radiation. After two cycles, the tumors were gone. But, I still had to complete my cycles of chemo and radiation. I was finally cancer free and I thought that was it. But I wasn't even close. When I finished treatment I faced loneliness since I lost all my so-called friends in middle school and high school and even college since they all didn't want to hang out with a so called "different person". I've had seven benign tumor surgeries since cancer due to treatment whether it was steroids or radiation relation and it has changed the way I looked and I've come to the realization that I can't change it. It's almost impossible to date women, I've have a hard time socializing with people, and I truly just feel lonely. I hate to be negative at all since I try to be positive about myself since I have a great job, I work with great people at a great university. It's just I struggle with this loneliness factor that fills up my mind on a daily basis. Thanks cancer for hurting my chances on a normal relationship with people for the rest of my life.