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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Simona Connect

Survivor: Ovarian Cancer

Dear Cancer, you ruin my life. I finally had my shit together and then you came. This time of the year 2 years ago i got the diagnosis. I didn't want to fight you i just wanted to live my life no matter what happens but i saw my parents cry and beg that i go on the operation. The first, second,third one ... i lost everything. They said i'm gonna be allright, but still 2 years after i cry every night. I'm in pain all the time and can't do a thing that doesn't remind me that something hurts. Friends left me when i got diagnosed and meeting new people is hell because i have to pretend i'm fine if i tell the truth they doesnt want to hear from me anymore. I want to go somewhere and not just stay home. I want to work, move out, travel... but i guess my destiny is to root in my room. I hate to go to doctors all the time ..actually that's the only time i go out of the house. I hate to see other cancer patients that want to live and survive and they die but i have to live. I still regret that i went to the operations or did anything. I wanted it to be a secret. I'm not ashamed of it i just don't want that anybody knows because i'm always the one who has/got cancer. I'm not a normal person anymore. I was all "yeah i'm gonna beat it, its nothing" at first because i was actually happy i'm gonna die. And now i live with all this problems..fuck this shit. I never tell anyone how i really feel because no one understands, all i have are my parents. If i say something they are just like "you are lazy/don't say such things etc" so i don't bother anymore to tell anyone. I just want to be happy again and have my own life.

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