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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Kali Connect

Fighter: Brain Tumor

Dear Cancer, You and I have known each other most of my life. From my great aunt's lung cancer, to my sister's brain tumor, my mother's vocal cord AND inflammatory breast cancer, and my own brain tumor, you've been everywhere I look. You taught me the value of living each day because nothing is promised. You showed me the need to let go of petty problems and disagreements. You helped me create cherished moments that are now precious memories because I knew time was limited. You ruthlessly took my aunt, sister, and mother from me. You changed who I am forever. Because of you I have fought harder than I knew was possible, loved stronger than most people dream of, given up dreams and crafted new ones, been hurt deeper than I would wish on my worst enemy, and showed me that I am unbreakable. You will never win against me. I don't care if/when you return, nor how aggressively you reappear - I. Will. Always. Beat. You. You cannot take away my choice to be happy, to try again, to help others smile because I know how that can be the only thing to get you through hell, to reach out to others that you have marked and show we are not as alone as you want us to feel. I will fight you in any arena, any time, any way that I can. I am your enemy, and you cannot control me.

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