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We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

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Tammy-Lou Connect

Survivor: Breast Cancer

Dear Cancer, I've always prided myself on never hating anyone or anything in my entire life, that is until I met you. I've never believed in hate. To me it's wasted energy and thoughts that could be going towards someone or something deserving of love. But I truly hate you. I don't think about you and I don't talk about you, because if I did? That would mean I have to deal with what I've gone thru and I can't do that, not yet. But with every ounce of strength and will that this 5'2", 100 lb. women has, I will stand up to you and simply say, "FUCK YOU. YOU CAN'T AND WON'T BEAT ME", and simply turn and walk away. I've wasted enough of my life on you. I've got 2 beautiful kids who deserve every second of my attention and love that you tried to keep from them. I'm tired of crying every time I think about you. I'm tired of running from dealing with what you have done to me physically, emotionally, and spiritually. One of the greatest satisfactions I have is that while you tried to kill me, making me waste down to 89 lbs., losing all my hair, forever losing the person I was, I was helping kick your ass by helping to run a fundraising campaign for the Leukemia Lymphoma Society by raising $30,000.00 in 10 weeks. Being involved with LLS literally saved my life. It gave me purpose to get up every morning to help defeat you. I know that in order for me to heal in every way possible, I have to accept and deal with what you did to me and my family. But with every tear that falls, I also take 10 steps forward. You will fade away with every new memory I make with my kids, until there is not a signal trace of you. Not for one moment will I ever look back as I ride forward in life, on my Harley, with the wind in my hair~~life is too beautiful to let it pass by and not live in the moment~~
Apr 06 2016 7:39am |
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