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I Had Cancer Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The IHC community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on IHC. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on IHadCancer is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that IHadCancer remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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CheekyPeaches Connect

Survivor: Breast Cancer

Dear Cancer: I'm not angry with you but our separation has reminded me what an impact you made on my soul. I grew complacent with life... forgetting about everyday adventures and taking life for granted. I was happy in my own little world. Then you came for a visit and everything changed... for the better! Did I cherish the loss of my beloved breasts? No, but you showed me how to love myself as I am and my confidence soared as never before! I'm covered in scars (11 if we want to be technical) yet I've never felt more beautiful. Did I love the chemicals coursing (still) through my body? No, but I learned I looked absolutely amazing with no hair! Who knew I have such a perfectly shaped head? Oh, and the loss of eyelashes were tempered with not shaving or waxing so we're good there. You could have warned me the steroids would make me fat though. That was weird. Did I love the constant vomiting? Nope, but though you stole every ounce of energy I had I still had kids to raise. I still worked. I still had a life. I found determination and used it to go camping, paint balling, and date. You've been gone for almost a year and though I'm not sorry I want to say thank you. Thank you for reminding how to be amazing. Thank you for reminding me how to be an example to my children. Thank you for reminding me even the littlest adventures count. Thank you for reminding me I'm a fighter. And most of all... thank you for reminding me to live. As always, Lisa

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