After 4 years of watching my mom fight cancer and battle her way through traditional cancer treatment, I ended up with a lot of fear. Deep down inside, it started to creep its way up after she passed in 2013. First of all, I never really acknowledged the fact that she could actually die. She was my mom after all! And I had seen her go through so much, I think my subconscious mind told me she would just keep fighting forever.
Once I allowed myself to acknowledge her death and come to terms with my own mortality, I realized I was suppressing another emotion —fear.
Not really fear of dying, but fear of getting cancer
and what that would mean. Honestly, the treatment scared me more than the actual disease.
So what did I do about all this fear? I turned to holistic health. I enrolled in a Master’s of Science program in holistic nutrition. I started eating only organic food
, nothing processed, nothing fried, and definitely nothing out of a bag, box or can. The more I learned about our food industry
, the more this fear built up inside of me. I also cleaned up my overall
lifestyle quite a bit. I threw out all the toxic household cleaners
, detergents, polishers,
fabric softeners, chlorine-filled bleach, and of course the countless beauty products
laced with carcinogenic chemicals that not even the FDA regulates. I installed an air
purifier after learning our indoor air is actually more toxic than the polluted, smoggy
outdoor air. I bought an under-sink mounted top-of-the-line water filter the likes of
my plumber had never even seen before. Oh and you better believe I also installed a
similar filter for my shower head! Because I love to take a hot steamy shower and
found out there was chlorine (which may cause thyroid problems), arsenic (may have
increased risk of cancer), pthalates (increased risk of cancer), benzene (increased risk
of cancer), heptachlor (increased risk of cancer), PCBs (increased risk of cancer), and
vinyl chlorides (increased risk of cancer) in that beloved steam that I was breathing
right into my lungs!
As you can see, I was terrified to eat, drink and breathe. Everything around me was
somehow linked to causing cancer. From the outside, it looked like I was doing all the right things. Friends would say,
“Oh, Michelle you’re so healthy” yet from the inside I felt everything but.
It wasn’t until I completed my Master’s Degree and started working with clients one-on-one to talk about their health that I saw the
impact of my fear about my own. As a nutritionist I can confidently say that no matter how clean your diet is, if your
are not in check, your risk for chronic disease is still heightened.
So how did I kick my fear to the curb? After starting my own business, cornucopiabox.com
which sends organic cancer care packages, I came across a
woman who was fighting cancer. She made a post on social media that went
something like this: "How can I have body issues when my body is all I’ve got? It’s the
thing I rely on for everything. It’s the thing that is fighting this cancer, and it’s the
thing that will beat it."
There I was, without cancer and completely ‘healthy’ yet wrapped up in all this fear
and self-loathing — and not to mention a few body image issues! While this woman
who had the thing I had feared most was so grateful, humbled, and so full of faith. It
really made me take a big step back and count each and every one of my blessings, including my health. When you focus your thoughts on gratitude, stress is non-existent. I realized I was grateful for my health, grateful for my body, grateful for my past, present and future. Grateful for my mom. She taught me so much over her lifetime, and perhaps taught me the most in her death.
So how did I overcome my fear of getting cancer?
I didn’t. At least not all of it. But now, I approach my health from the perspective of nourishment. I enjoy my life to the fullest. That doesn’t mean I go out partying every weekend with the mindset of "you’re only young once"! Because we’re all young once but not all of us get to grow old. I still eat organic food when possible, I still use my water filter and air purifier, I use organic essential oils like lemon, grapefruit, peppermint and tea tree to clean my home, and I still make healthiest choices possible when I go out to eat (and yes, once in a blue moon you can catch me completely indulging in a surf-n-turf cheesy burrito with a big smile on my face).
Now, I focus on things that are good for me because it feels good. Body, mind, and spirit. I celebrate these things everyday. Rituals like my monthly DIY french green clay face mask, jumping on my mini trampoline when I need a little lift, taking time to breathe, getting creative in the kitchen with ‘mocktails’ and new recipes, and taking my dogs on a stroll around the neighborhood near sunset have become my way of nourishing my body, mind, and spirit that celebrates ME and has nothing to do with fear.
Do you have similar fears when it comes to cancer? Share in the comments below.
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