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We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your IHadCancer profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the IHC community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

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6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

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Pvillan65 Connect

Survivor: Breast Cancer

Dear Breast Cancer, I found you during a routine mammogram, and despite recent studies that indicate mammograms may not be necessary, I am glad I had that one. You were too small for me to feel, centered in my breast, spreading out of the milk ducts and into the surrounding tissue. We took you out, as soon as we could, and your genetic makeup meant that I needed aggressive chemotherapy, followed by radiation. You took my hair, you took my femininity - but I am getting those back. You took my sense of complacency and I replaced that with live-in-the-moment philosophy. You gave me fear and I turned it around and made it courage. Thanks to you, I will need to take medication for years, but also thanks to you, I have been much more focused on my general health and well-being. I am working with a trainer and a nutritionist to make sure you never, ever, come back. You have taken so much from me this year, one of your kind took my love while I was still in treatment. He battled long and hard and bravely - but you spread too fast and we couldn't stop you. I know he is looking down on me from Heaven, and that he is whole and new and healthy there. I know that he is with me in the dark times and that he is with me in the light. You have taken so much, damn you. But you won't win.
Feb 15 2014 12:08pm |
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